Friday, April 29, 2011

dishonorable discharge...

Dishonorable discharge. I really haven’t ever heard this word accept when speaking of the military. But when I came across the word dishonor in the Bible this morning, I wondered what it actually meant. In the context of the verse I believe it meant “disgrace”, but there was another definition that surprised and struck me. It was that of being sexually assaulted, being “dishonored”.
I cannot think of a more appropriate word…dishonor. She was raped…she was seduced into child pornography…she was touched by a family member…in every case…she was DISHONORED. The sacred, the innocence, was treated with violence…and now she feels dirty.

I constantly stand in amazement of how the dirty sin of the perpetrator somehow transfers over to the victim. The transaction is sickly strange. The perpetrator makes a withdrawal out of the victim’s innocence and confidence bank… and then deposits a double portion of shame, fear, guilt, and doubt to replace the balance.
Victims often feel as if their only option is to draw from their own bank account, and given that their bank account was hijacked, they draw from feelings of dishonor. But what if there was another bank account…one that has been set aside for them since the beginning of time. An account full of unconditional love, forgiveness, restoration, freedom, and grace. An account that has no withdrawal fees, and there is no way it can ever be overdrafted.

Isaiah 61:7 says “Instead of their shame my people will receive a double portion, and instead of disgrace they will rejoice in their inheritance; and so they will inherit a double portion in their land, and everlasting joy will be theirs.”
Christ has an inheritance for you beyond all comprehension. And the best news it has a double portion of my favorite thing, EVERLASTING JOY!
Dishonor…I think we might as well give it a “dishonorable discharge”, because there is no reason to continue to honor a bank account of lies. Instead, let’s honor the truth – and dive into the bank account of Jesus’ crazy love!


  1. This is brilliant and beautiful!! So much honey healing, sweet sweet sweetness, in these truths. thank you dear friend for portraying Jesus' goodness in your words, deeds, and life!!

    Love ya!

  2. I never thought of dishonorable discharge in this way, but how profound it is indeed. Truly blessed to read and think on this. Thank you.

  3. Love you to dear Sam, you know I always love your blog, it is my comfy place! And Tammy, I was so blessed by your words as well girly!

  4. Wow, I have been on your blog since I came home from work. I have went from one post to the other just reading and crying. Your blog is beautiful and it gives hope that healing can truly belong to others. Every single post that I have read tonight, I have found myself in them but especially the one about Parts. It describe exactly how I have felt about what I endured as a child. I felt as if parts of me were left with every person who abused me as a child but I know that only God is the one who can bring all those parts together and cause wholeness to be. I thank God for your blog and maybe one day I can tell my story will boldness and courage just as you have done here. Thank you for the hope that I have found here. God bless.

  5. Lora! It is so nice to meet you! I love what you said about God bringing all those parts together to a whole, because that is exactly what He does! I am so sorry that you were abused as a child...:( But when I look at your beautiful face, I see redemption and strength...your heavenly Father...He is so proud of you! I hope you are able to do Melissa Taylor's study with Wendy Blight's book... I look forward to getting to know you more!